“A Better Way To Talk About Love” TED Talk
“This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet.”
As I was recently reminded of the abundance of inspiration that can be found by watching TED Talks, I started to look for talks about the stories we tell ourselves. Simply because that has become my fascination of late.
When scrolling through the hundreds of talks that answered to my query, I came across the one below. Mandy Len Catron‘s talk wasn’t exactly what I had in mind, because it focuses on merely one story we tell ourselves (how we look at romantic love), but for many people this one story may be determining their life. Simply because we can get so caught up in it. As Mandy explains: the metaphors we use to describe how we feel when we’re in love can create pretty dramatic and all-encompassing stories. Hence, when we live by those stories our lives can be defined by love – thus Juliet’s despair about Romeo’s banishment from the city felt very real to the 14-year old Mandy.
What I liked most about Mandy’s talk, though, is her suggestion to use different – less dramatic – metaphors when talking about love. It speaks to the mindful use of words which I am fond of, and to the invitation to become more aware of the stories we tell ourselves and how we subsequently base our lives on those stories.
LOVE is not confined by anything. So let’s take up Mandy’s proposition to replace the restricting metaphors by more loving ones: