What Is Your Go-To-Explanation?
Usually I use my blog posts as inspiration for my Instagram updates, but this time it’s the other way around: I’ve created two spur-of-the-moment texts on Instagram which probably gave me more food for thought than they did for any of my followers (wink!).
The first one was written during the most recent Full Moon:
“Some days the push & pull of the ocean’s waves is stronger than on other days. Today is such a day. I grant the honor of its cause to the Full Moon, knowing that I am still responsible for whatever I do with the influence I sense.
We all have our own ways of dealing with these currents in our lives; emotions and experiences…what is yours? What is your go-to-explanation? The one thing that always makes sense to you?”
It made me realize, once again, how much we live by our beliefs. How much we need to explain and analyse – okay, maybe me mostly – strong sensations and out of the ordinary events. And how that need for analysis immediately activates the beliefs we call “truth”.
Or, as Marcus Aurelius has put it:
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”
The funny thing that tends to happen to me, once I become aware of my beliefs again, is that I immediately start questioning them. The question “What is your go-to-explanation?” arose from that realization.
Apparently, I linked my strong sensations to the event of a Full Moon that was taking place that very day. If I weren’t such a fan of everything in the sky (stars, planets, astrology, astronomy, quantum physics, etc.), how would I have explained the same strong sensations? Would I have felt the need to analyse them at all? Or would I just have muddled through the day, hoping it would all soon go away..?
As pointless as these questions may seem to you, they are quite essential to me.
Obviously due to another belief I have: that a meaningful life derives from questioning everything, especially my beliefs! Perhaps I should call that a value, as I seem to (attempt to) follow Mark Manson’s advice:
“Aristotle wrote, ‘It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.’ Being able to look at and evaluate different values without necessarily adopting them is perhaps the central skill required in changing one’s own life in a meaningful way.”
(Manson 2016: 143)
Speaking of values, and of what I find important on a day-to-day basis, here is the second text I’d like to recapitulate:
“I’ve made a deal with myself: peace of mind comes first.
“What about money? You need to eat, pay rent, etc.” Yes, and money becomes a frustrating chase if I don’t have peace of mind first. Think about it: with a calm mind ideas and inspiration come easier, as well as decisions on how to spend money. Besides, peace of mind also means no stress about money in the first place…
“Relationship(s)? You don’t want to end up alone!” I much rather have a healthy relationship with myself than trying to be complete through other people. I love and adore my friends & family, but I can only do so from a place of wholeness. This means taking responsibility for my own life (choices), and wholeheartedly exchange all sorts of experiences with them.
It may be a state of mind, but it comes from my heart. It’s listening to the whispers of my Soul, guiding me into more expansion, and flowing with the nonlinear order of Source. It’s choosing love over fear.”
This is a pretty big deal to me. Literally.
The choice of love over fear is a choice of faith. Trusting that the loving force of Source (the Universe, Spirit, or whichever name you prefer) guides me and provides for me. Not to leave everything up to chance, quite the contrary. By taking responsibility for all of my choices I own up to my part in this life. That still leaves plenty of “life stuff” that I cannot control, or influence even, and I’ve become better and better in letting it go. Because you may not realize this, but we humans attempt to plan and control our lives up to the second. And we generally get so frustrated if things don’t work out as we planned! Are examples coming to mind yet? Of events or people you had all figured out in your head and then went awry on you? These can go from small moments of receiving a “no” instead of the anticipated “yes” or bigger things where you lose a loved one and you never saw it coming…
Hence, I go back to faith. I choose not to follow up on what my fears are telling me, and to go for the guidance of love instead. Which often seems an irrational choice – by thought – but certainly feels like a life enhancing choice – by heart.
To be clear: peace of mind does not mean having to sit still all the time. I go out, I have fun, I am socializing, and all that. Peace of mind means that whatever I do is, ideally, not driven by the fear of what would happen if I didn’t. You know, the kind of fears that society likes to threaten our thoughts with: losing money, losing friends, losing status, lose, lose,… Peace of mind means that my actions are driven by the love for expansion. Whether this entails solo meditating for hours or going on a crazy road trip with friends. Both can stretch my mind, have me question my beliefs again, and therefore make me grow.
In conclusion, I invite you today: will you take everything for granted or will you look at your beliefs and wonder what Love would say…?
Source: Manson, M. (2016). The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. New York: HarperCollins Publishers.