Compassion for Whatever-You-Already-Are
Compassion exists of four elements: Love, Peace, Joy, and Community. A friend told me this, and it makes sense to me.
Generally, when I think of compassion, I think of other people. I think of extending the love, peace, and joy I feel to all who are around me. I think of the love and support that a community can provide, the way I described it two weeks ago.
You may have noticed that I did not mention the compassion for myself.
It’s ironic, really. I aim to spread love, peace, and joy as much as I can, but where am I supposed to get those from if not from myself?
Last week has been about packing, moving, and logistics. Sitting behind my laptop, writing this down, is quite a relief for me. It means I have found a moment to stop moving. It made me realize something else too. Moving to another country is stressful and hectic for most people, and I am no exception. But now that I am sitting down, I realize that I have been trying to move in a non-stressful manner. It’s the challenge I’ve come across ever since I started working on my dream for the Centre for Conscious Connection:
I feel I should set an example, so I try to be as zen as I can in everything I do.
Do you see the irony in this? Trying to be zen means fighting whatever is. Trying to be zen means not accepting that moving to another country might be the opposite of zen – at least for who I am right now. Trying to be zen excludes compassion for myself. Only love, peace, joy, and the support of my community can bring that about (note to self!).
This beautiful quote from the Dalai Lama – found on Elephant Journal’s Instagram – says it all:
“Do not try to use what you learn from Buddhism to be a Buddhist; use it to be a better whatever-you-already-are.”
I am a 36-year-old-female-entrepreneur-moving-to-France-to-start-a-business-and-spread-compassion-there.
I am amazing!
How about you?